“…mothers who have three children are the most stressed out - even more so than those who have four, according to a Today.com survey of 7,164 U.S. mothers.” – Today.com, May 6, 2013
Hmmmmmm...There's a brand new article racing around the Net.
Apparently, the jittery, foot tapping, shaky hands that we moms of three have on a daily basis doesn’t come from too much of our favorite Starbucks in the morning. It actually comes from the fact that we have three kids instead of the much more manageable four....
So let me repeat that: Moms of 3 are more stressed than moms of 4.
Well, who knew???
Which is making the Facebook-o-sphere crackle with jokes, because we moms of three can't help but wonder: To add a 4th child now into our home would be like inviting a helpless, naked, baby field mouse into a household of Pachyderms – stomping and tromping and trumpeting in and out with loads of athletic, sporting, elementary school, active older kiddo gear. Hooting “MOM, WHAT’S FOR DINNER???” and “I CAN’T FIND MY SHIN GUARD!!!”
Let alone that we’ve already we’ve already unloaded all the baby slings and swings and Pack&Plays and tiny sheets and bottle warmers and one hundred thousand other baby gear items that make the baby world go round.
But, would a having a 4th kid really bring about less stress? Would we finally “give up” (or “let go”) and wear holes in our sweats? And not care about the rats-nests in the kids’ hair and those darn, forever lost shin guards….? And would we learn to say “no” more often and smile space-ily as we ignore requests for punctual playdates and agro-mommy-needs?
Well, possibly! And here's why: “There’s just not enough space in your head for perfectionism when you get to four or more kids,” says Dr. Janet Taylor, psychiatrist in New York and mom of 4. “It just gets to be survival!”
Right on, Dr. T! I already feel that way and I only have 3!
So, friends, let’s watch and see what happens to the family planning birth rates moving forward with this info. Will moms of three decide to go for that 4th instead of an adorable, new puppy to soothe the stress levels and keeps themselves sane?
And as for me and the thought of number 4, it may be too late. So I think we’ll stick with the fuzzy kind with a tail for now. And work on decreasing stress in another, more realistic way….. booze, drugs and rock & roll!
Kidding of course, but it sure sounds easier than Pack&Plays and midnight feedings and colic, again….
Namaste & Three Cheers! -OM